Don’t let the haters stop you from doing your thang…Did you just say thang?
That’s a line from one of my favorite movies: Mean Girls. It cracks me up. I haven’t been in High School in nearly 10 years, but it still totally resonates. Plus, it’s Lindsay Lohan before she went off the deep end.
So, I received a comment on this site, I won’t go into from whom, but we’ll just say that it made me feel particularly terrible about myself. I have a history of getting caught up in what other people think. I am afraid to try things because other people don’t believe that I can do them. I’m afraid to try things because I worry that if I fail (it’s more often phrased as when I fail), people will say mean things about me.
But the truth of the matter is that I’m the only one who can decide whether I fail or succeed. No one else is responsible for me or my motivation or my success; therefore, it really shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks because they’re not here doing things, succeeding or failing. At the end of the day, I’m the one who puts food in my mouth. I’m the one who sits on the couch instead of exercising. I’m the one who stays in bed instead of getting up to go to the gym. And I’m the only one who can change the course of events.
Sure, others’ opinions are important. Words of support are important. But, at the end of the day, someone’s opinion is just that: an opinion. Opinions aren’t truth, and they certainly aren’t reality.
I’ve had crap eating days for the past three days. I was ready to throw it all in. I was ready to just stop trying. But I’ve lost seven (reported) pounds. That’s a lot of weight for me. I’ve been trying for months, so to actually lose is a HUGE deal. I’ve started going to the gym, and it’s not as much as I need to do, but it’s more than I have done, which is also a big deal. I’ve been eating a lot less, which is half the battle. That alone is enough to lose weight. Just eating less than I have been.
So, I am not going to let anyone else get me down. I believe in myself, and that is what is important. I have gym days scheduled every day this week. I am going to try to start running; three days this week. I’m going to get ready, and I’m going to run a 5k in January. And I’m going to run a marathon next October. I can do it. I’m setting my mind to it, and I can. As my math enthusiast/bad ass m.c. friend says, “don’t let the haters stop you from doing your thang.”
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So sorry if someone gave you a comment that hurt. It can happen but I can tell you that it doesn’t happen that often on this site so don’t let it get you too down. Sometimes I feel like you though. Sometimes I can get caught up in what others might think like family or friends and that’s too bad because who knows how far you and I can go if we keep doing that. I’m 37 and still worry sometimes and that’s just crazy. I’m an adult so why should it matter, right? But, I can say that I’m getting better at not doing it though. I just figure that some people I worry about have worse things going on in their life so why should I worry what they think? Look girl, you just make youself some new goals whether they are little baby step one’s or bigger one’s and then you give it your best effort. There will alway’s be someone out there who will say something negative but let’s really focus on the people who can bring good things to our lives. I’m here to support you girl. I’ll do my best if you need me.
You will do great at all your goals… losing weight AND running that Marathon!!
I’m sorry that you received a comment that made you feel bad–especially on this site. Don’t let it get to you as almost everyone here is supportive and encouraging and will lift you up and help you on your path to your goal! Be strong, girl! You can do it!